The Best Cell Phones for Kids
Ultimate Guide for Parents

What are the Best Cell Phones for Kids?

If you're a parent, you know the world has changed drastically since we were kids. We had after-school cartoons, our kids have high-tech gaming consoles. Another thing our kids have that we didn't are cell phones. And it's not just teenagers - according to consumer research done by Influence Central, the average age for children to have their first smartphone is now 10 years.

Mobile technology can be a great safety tool - children can use them to call for a ride, let parents know they've arrived safely at their destination, or to call for help in case of an emergency. With smartphones, however, comes a lot of potential for misuse. They can even make our kids vulnerable in certain situations.

If you're thinking of giving your child a phone, there are some safety guidelines you should be aware of first.

What are the Best Cell Phones for Kids?

Should Kids Have Cell Phones? Understanding the Risks

Every parent wants to think "my child would never behave inappropriately online" or that their kids are savvy enough to understand that certain types of smartphone activities put them at risk. The harsh reality, however, is that many children simply don't have the information they need to stay safe online. An even harsher reality is that even if we tell them what to do and what not to do, their judgment isn't always good enough to follow our advice.

Even though these statistics can be extremely intimidating when it comes to giving our children access to technology, there are things you can do to mitigate the risks.

In fact, research has slowly been catching up with what rental car companies have known all along - that the rational, decision-making center of the brain, the prefrontal cortex, really isn't fully developed until about age 25. Impulse control isn't well established even in older teens, which means that we as parents need to be that much more aware as our kids get to the age when they're interacting comprehensively with the people and the world around them.

Things that could put your child in danger through the use of their cell phone include:

  1. Inappropriate internet content - according to GuardChild, a parent-run organization dedicated to keeping kids safe online, 70% of kids between ages 7 and 18 have accidentally seen pornography on the internet.
  2. Sexting - if you're thinking to yourself "my child would never do that", you could be wrong. In a study by Drexel University, over half of participants admitted to sexting as teens. Even more alarming is the fact that 61% of those who included nude photos in their texts were unaware that such photos can be considered child pornography under the law.
  3. Predators - apps like Foursquare and Facebook allow your kids to post their location. If these posts are made publicly rather than just to close friends, someone with less than honest intentions could get ahold of the information, making your child extremely vulnerable.
  4. Car accidents - texting while driving increases the risk of a car crash by as much as 23 times, according to research.

Even though these statistics can be extremely intimidating when it comes to giving our children access to technology, there are things you can do to mitigate the risks. Next, I'll talk about how to set both you and your kids up for success so that you can enjoy peace of mind while they're enjoying their devices.

Related: Check out The Ultimate Guide to Internet Safety for Kids

Setting the Ground Rules

So you've made the big decision and you're going to allow your child to have a cell phone. Making the rules is where the rubber hits the road in terms of making sure everyone's on the same page about this new privilege.

When you're sharing these conditions with your son or daughter, remember that you'll always get better results by conveying a positive attitude about your confidence in them. Let them know that you feel they're able to handle the responsibility and that these guidelines are in place for their safety rather than as a way for you to be controlling.

This set of rules is a list of basic suggestions. You know your child best and can modify the rules based upon your own family dynamics.

  • Only give your phone number to people you know. Don't post it on social media or any other public forum.
  • Ask before you download. Parents should know which apps their kids are using - they're not all safe.
  • Tell a parent or trusted adult if you receive a text or photo that makes you uncomfortable and delete it immediately. Possession of inappropriate photos of minors is a felony.
  • Keep your location private. Posting where you are, or where you plan to be at a certain time, puts you in a vulnerable position if a predator sees it.
  • Tell a parent or teacher if you're being cyber-bullied. This includes any type of threatening or intimidating message or post.
  • Ignore and block messages or phone calls from unknown numbers. Only answer calls from people you know.
  • Follow school rules on cell phone usage. This usually means your phone cannot be out of your bag during class.
  • Charge your phone in a central location in the house. This means leaving your phone in a room other than your bedroom at night.
  • Only say things online and by text that you would tell the person. In other words, treat others as you want to be treated.
  • Never text and drive. This is one of the biggest causes for road accidents.
  • Remember that the internet is forever. Any text, photo, or social media post that you put out there can be copied, forwarded, or reposted. Nothing that you put out into cyberspace can be taken back so be sure that you're okay with anyone seeing it, including your parents, teachers, family, and friends.

It may be helpful to keep a list of cell phone rules for your kids printed out and posted on the fridge or in another main location in the house.

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Key Considerations When Choosing a Childs Cell Phone

The type of phone and features that you choose for your child depend on their age, maturity level, and ability to be responsible. Some preteens, for example, may walk home alone while you're at work. You want to make sure they stay safe, but don't have access to inappropriate content on their phone. Older teenagers, on the other hand, tend to want more functionality so they can text their friends and access social media sites. There's no one-size-fits-all choice when it comes to cell phones for kids.

What Kind of a Phone Do They Need?

These days even middle schoolers experience peer pressure when it comes to having the latest, greatest smartphone. Just ask my daughter, who luckily for me is perfectly fine with not being one of the "cool" kids. This state of affairs does, however, make it difficult for parents to figure out the best cell phone options for their kids.

Elementary Kids and Tweens

If your child is not a teenager yet, they probably don't need the internet on their mobile device. There are plenty of basic phones available which can give you peace of mind knowing your child can contact you if they need to, yet are affordable so won't cost you an arm and a leg if your kid loses or breaks theirs.

Teenagers

Teenagers are an entirely different animal. They're past the play date stage and want to be in constant contact with their friends via text and social media, plus be able to search the internet and access GPS directions while driving. A smartphone will likely be the best choice for your teen. You can still keep the cost reasonable, however:

  • Pass down your old smartphone. Most of us have slightly older smartphone models lying around that we don't use anymore. These make the ideal free yet perfectly functional choice for a teenager.
  • Buy used cell phones. If you don't have a hand-me-down phone available, buying a secondhand device is a great way to save money.
  • Let them share the responsibility. If your teen has a job, there's no reason they shouldn't pay at least part of their own device cost and phone bill. This helps prepare them for adult responsibilities and is likely to make them more careful about losing or damaging their cell phone.

Just because your child has a smartphone with internet access doesn't mean you have to set them loose to do whatever they please with it. There is useful and innovative technology that gives you some measure of control over what your teenager uses their phone for, which I'll cover throughout this guide.

Choosing a Cell Phone Plan for Kids

Just as you evaluate the cell phone plans for yourself, you need to decide on things like how much data and which features your child will need. You should also consider whether you want to put your child's phone on your postpaid plan, or choose from among the best prepaid cell phone plans.

For young children with a basic phone, a simple calling and texting plan will do fine. These kinds of plans are very reasonable - for example, T-Mobile cell phone plans have a $3/month pay-as-you-go service that comes with 30 minutes of talk and 30 texts (you can add more if you wish).

For teenagers, you might want to go with one of the unlimited data plans now available from carriers like Boost Mobile. You can find plans with unlimited music streaming, perfect for adolescents who can't seem to get enough Spotify or Pandora. Plus, you won't get hit with an unpleasant surprise at the end of the month in the form of data overages.

More Tips for Parents

All of this information on kids and cell phone safety may seem a little overwhelming and scary. The good news, though, is that in this age of rapidly advancing technology parents are stepping up to the plate. According to the Pew Research Center, 43% of parents know the password to their child's cell phone. It may feel like an invasion of privacy, but it's our job to keep them safe and monitoring their phone usage is a big piece of that puzzle.

Here are a few more things to keep in mind as you approach this complex new parenting landscape:

  • Consider using parental controls that allow you to help your kids make good decisions. Programs like PhoneSheriff are helpful for younger kids - they allow you to track your child's whereabouts by GPS, monitor call, and text info, and set time limits on usage. Apps like DriveSafe Mode allow you to shut off certain functions while your teenager is driving, like texting and web surfing.
  • Model the behavior you want to see. Don't text and drive, and put your phone away at the dinner table. Kids learn best by example, so this is a simple way to get your message across.
  • Approach topics on cell phone safety by having a conversation rather than giving a lecture. Kids want to be treated with respect just as adults do. When we lecture, they tend to become very good at tuning us out. The more comfortable your child feels the more likely they will be to come to you if they do happen to encounter a situation.
  • Monitor your child's cell phone records. These are available online in your account with most major carriers. If you see numbers you don't recognize or a lot of late night texts or calls, you'll know it's time for a talk.
  • Stay connected (pun intended). Talk to your son or daughter every day, even if just for a minute, about what they've been doing and who they've been talking to. Show interest, and your child's response may surprise you. Some of the best times with my teenagers are when I ask them about something they're laughing at on their phones - they're usually more than happy to share it with me so that we can have a laugh together.
  • Make sure your name in your child's contact list is followed by ICE (in the case of emergency). This way others will know who to call if something should happen. In case your child's phone is locked, consider taping your contact info to the outside for quick access.
  • Investigate your carrier's parental control features. Most major providers like AT&T and Verizon offer features which help you monitor and restrict your child's activity on his or her cell phone.

Setting clear rules and talking and listening to your children will help the entire experience go more smoothly and enjoyably for everyone.

Cell Phone Safety Tips for Kids Recap

Kids are a lot of work, there's no doubt about it. Keeping them safe is the most important job we have, and the results are definitely worth the effort in the end. Taking advantage of technology means your kids will always be able to contact you, and you will be able to monitor their activities and location quickly and easily.

Cell phones can be both a blessing and a curse. If you follow these guidelines, however, you can make them work in your favor - which means the whole family will have more peace of mind and an enhanced connection with each other.